Though this may seem very contrary to most established roles and ideas, my submissive has taught me so much about myself and in particular a new side of me I have defined as my “Little Dom”. The concept of a “little”…the younger side of a persons psyche and the desire to explore that side along with the “little” presenting itself or making itself known in the most wonderful ways, along with some immature and tantrum types of ways…the often included desire to be playful, innocent, and treated in a more “parental” or “guided” type of way…all these things are so often seen in the role of a submissive.
I present the idea that a Dominant can also have some “little” in them. My submissive has helped me see this, consciously or sub-consciously, she has helped me grow to find that along with my sadistic and Dominant side there is also a silly, joking, playful, “Little Dom” inside of me. It isn’t used or presented in the same ways as in a submissive and it is taking a lot for me to learn to control and deal with this side. There isn’t a clear boundary where I am Dominant, in control, and then suddenly I’m not…it’s a melding of the two into a Dominant silliness…a Dominant playfulness. Where does it say that a Dominant always has to be so serious? So utterly focused and sometimes even cold?
When I feel this Little Dom coming through, it isn’t as though I suddenly feel less Dominant or lose control or focus. What does happen, is that I am so relaxed and at ease with my submissive that my Little Dom can have fun…joke…be silly…yet still maintain control and Dominance over the situation or the play at the time. The sadistic giggles…the playfulness…can all be there and expand the enjoyment.
I don’t know where this came from or how she was able to help me realize this, but no matter…I love her, own her, as she is mine so much deeper then any other before. She is a part of me and is opening my eyes to such deeper aspects of my own personality. Too often I hear or read about Dominants that are so set in stone..set in their ways…closed to any growth or experience…I can only hope that I never close my mind.
Thank you, my little one, for helping me see this side of myself.
I love you.
I don’t see him as a little, I see him as a dominant man who can relax and just enjoy the silliest moments. Thank you Sir for your love and the wonderful words.