Our Contract

I’ve been asked to share the agreement/ contract that D and I signed utilizing wonderful contracts written by others and adding in our own pieces of the puzzle.

Dominant and submissive Agreement

Created on August 16, 2014

This document serves as an agreement which defines in specific terms the power exchange relationship and interaction between two individuals, hereafter termed the submissive and the Dominant. This agreement is only binding between the two people signed below. This agreement is entered voluntarily with both parties agreeing to the conditions.

This agreement is intended to guide the two individuals on their journey together, and while the primary intention is to please the Dominant, it is also intended to shape the submissive into a better, happier, and stronger woman, and to help the couple grow together spiritually, lovingly, mentally, and physically. This agreement shall serve as the basis for an extension of the relationship, committed to in the spirit of loving and consent. Dominance and submission with the intention of furthering self-awareness and exploration, promoting health and happiness, and improving both our lives.

This contract has a life of 6 months. At its expiration a new contract may be created and signed.

  Section I: The Dominant’s role

a)      The Dominant agrees to care for the submissive to include tending to the physical safety and emotional and mental well-being of the submissive as long as He owns the submissive.

b)      The Dominant also accepts the commitment to treat the submissive properly, to train and discipline the submissive, punish the submissive, love the submissive, and use the submissive as He sees fit.

c)      The Dominant accepts the responsibility to use His power to mold and shape the submissive, assist the submissive to grow in strength, character, confidence and being, and to help her become a better woman in all areas of her life.

d)     The Dominant will not ever purposefully ignore the submissive.

e)      It shall be the Dominant’s duty, with applicable assistance from the submissive, to watch for and prevent any mental or emotional trauma which may stem from the condition of servitude, activities within the condition of service, or any other variable that is based within the confines of this contract.

f)       The Dominant will be faithful to the submissive, and will be honest and loyal to her at all times.

g)      The Dominant will always be open to the submissive’s concerns and thoughts, worries and stresses, and will encourage her to always open up and express her feelings and concerns to Him without fear of punishment.

h)   The Dominant agrees to not submit the submissive to a session when he might not be in the proper frame of mind to administer it.

i)     The Dominant will always support the submissive through encouragement in her relationships with family and friends as well as through her career.

j)      The Dominant will not keep the submissive or their relationship isolated from other aspects of his daily life.

 Section II: The submissive’s role

a)      The primary purpose of the submissive is to serve, obey, and please the Dominant, in a manner seem fit by the Dominant.

b)      The submissive will put her entire trust into the Dominant with the knowledge that He will never betray that trust.

c)      The submissive shall follow rules, rituals and guidelines as established by the Dominant, with the understanding that breaking a rule, ritual or guideline will lead to some form of punishment as dictated by the Dominant.

d)     The submissive agrees to follow the direction and commands from the Dominant both in and out of the bedroom.

e)      The submissive will always respond to the sexual needs of the Dominant at any time in any manner that he sees fit, unless responding to His needs violates any other aspect of this contract. This includes engaging in sexual activities with the Dominant that might be outside of her comfort zone but she will do them as they please him.

f)       The submissive will be faithful to the Dominant and will be honest and loyal to him at all times.

g)      The submissive will at all times act in a manner that is respectful of the Dominant, to include manners of speech, promptness, proper answers, obedience, loyalty, and honesty, with the understanding between both of them that the submissive shall not have to necessarily alter her personality.

h)      The submissive will take proper care of her body in a manner that is pleasing to the Dominant and with guidance from him if necessary.

i)        If the situation feels warranted by the Dominant, the Dominant may demand the submissive make other adjustments to lifestyle.

j)        When not in His presence, the submissive will maintain regular contact with the Dominant, to include informing Him of her schedule and activities. Regular contact is to include phone calls, text messages, or emails. The submissive will do everything in her capacity to respond promptly to all communications from the Dominant, and must never make the Dominant feel ignored by her.

k)    The submissive will not keep the Dominant or their relationship isolated from other aspects of her daily life.

l)        His reliance on safewords obligates me to use them and I Promise to do so. I will use “yellow” as a warning word to request that the Dominant slow down, ease up, or change direction while continuing the session. I will use “red” to immediately end a scene or session

m)    Additionally, the submissive agrees to the following:

a.       To strive to overcome feelings of guilt or shame, and all inhibitions that interfere with her capability to serve the Dominant and limit her growth as his submissive

b.      To reveal her thoughts, feelings, and desires without hesitation or embarrassment

c.       To inform the Dominant of her wants and perceived needs, recognizing that he is the judge of whether or how these shall be satisfied

d.      To strive toward maintenance of a positive self-image and development of realistic expectations and goals

e.       To work with the Dominant to become a happy and self-fulfilled individual

f.       To work against negative aspects of my ego and my insecurities that would interfere with advancement of these aims

 Section III: Other Partners

The Dominant understands that the submissive entered the relationship with a Polyamorous tendency.  The submissive agrees to discuss any potential partner with the Dominant and develop acceptable boundaries to remain true to the Dominant/submissive relationship created in this agreement.

The Dominant expresses desire and interest in the submissive having other intimate partners. The Dominant agrees that any intimate partner of his choosing must agree to all hard limits and treat submissive with respect and respect of the Dominant and submissive’s relationship. The submissive agrees that any intimate partner of her choosing will treat her with respect and respect of the Dominant and submissive’s relationship and accepting of the boundaries established by the Dominant.

The Dominant agrees that any partner for himself will be discussed in advance with the submissive and will develop acceptable boundaries to remain true to the Dominant/submissive relationship created in this agreement.

 Section IV:  Limits

The Dominant and submissive have discussed and provided one another a listing of hard limits.  It is agreed upon that these limits include no permanent marks or piercings, no permanent bodily harm, no illegal activities or any play involving children or animals, no play involving blood, scat or direct fire.

 Section V:  Punishments

The submissive and the Dominant agree that appropriate punishments are necessary for the growth of the submissive. Punishments are dependent on the severity of the infraction. Punishments will be used to change the behavior and remind the submissive of this agreement.

Dominant will inform submissive that she is being punished when punishment occurs. He will explain the reason for punishment either before, during, or following punishment. The Dominant agrees to discipline only out of a desire to better the submissive, and further agrees to never punish out of, or during, feelings of anger.

 Section VI: Alteration of contract

This contract may not be altered, except when both Dominant and submissive jointly agree. If the contract is altered, the new contract shall be printed and signed, and then the old contract must be destroyed.

 Section VII: Termination of Contract

Should either Dominant or submissive find that their aspirations are not being well served by this agreement, find this commitment too burdensome, or for any other reason wish to cancel, either may do so by verbal notification to the other, in keeping with the consensual nature of the agreement.

We both understand that cancellation means a cessation of the control stated and implied within this agreement, not a termination of our relationship as friends and/or lovers. Should the relationship as lovers and/or friends terminate, this agreement becomes null and void.

Upon cancellation, each agree to offer the other their reasons and assess our new needs and situation openly and lovingly.

 Section VIII: submissive’s signature

With a free mind and open heart; do request of Dominant that he accept the submission of my will unto him and take me into his care and guidance, that we may grow together in love, trust, and mutual respect. The satisfaction of his wants, desires, and whims are consistent with my desire as a submissive to be found pleasing to him. To that end, I offer him the use of my time, talents, and abilities.

My surrender as a submissive is done with the knowledge that nothing asked of me will demean me as a person, and in no way diminish my own responsibilities toward making use of my potential.

Signature____________________________________________  Date_______

 Section IX: Dominant’s signature

I have read and fully understand this contract in its entirety. I agree to accept this submissive as my property, and to care for her to the best of my ability. I shall command her, train her, love her, and punish her as a submissive. I shall always treat her with respect. I understand the responsibility implicit in this arrangement, and agree that no harm shall come to the submissive as long as she is mine.

Signature____________________________________________  Date________

 

GOALS FOR THE SUBMISSIVE FOR THE NEXT SIX MONTHS

1.    To get into better physical shape and maintain physical fitness throughout the year

2.    To continue working on her patience.

 

GOALS FOR THE DOMINANT FOR THE NEXT SIX MONTHS

1.         To get into better physical shape and maintain physical fitness throughout the year

2.         To be more available in order to grow and strengthen the relationship

 

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40 thoughts on “Our Contract

  1. Wonderfully touching, inspirational for my own use, extraordinarily thought out, and well written. I second all of what Enigmatic Amor said to the letter.
    Thank you very much. I hope many people see this and can learn from it.

    1. Thank you Samantha. It’s meant to be a starting point for others. I would love to see yours when finished. It’s almost time for us to update ours. 🙂

  2. Thank you for sharing this. My wife has recently confessed her desire to be submissive to me and this was quite helpful.
    I appreciate it

  3. I have just recently entered a Dom and sub relationship. He is the most sweetest and devoted sub . . This is the best relationship I have ever had. I’m a 51 yr old female and he is my cub he is 27. I have been blessed…. and your contract will be beautiful in our joining further. Thank you. Bambi

      1. the relationship I have been in shows all the signs that we are in this type of lifestyle. I had been confused n foolish n I need to know what to say n do. He’s married as well

  4. Hey, my name is Sukie an I was introduce to this lifestyle when I was 16. I never stayed to it because it was different to me, plus I was young an didn’t know much about it. I’m 26 I did my research an I’m looking into becoming submissive. How do I get into it, is my question?

    1. Find a local munch to get to know others and many offer workshops to begin learning. Don’t just jump in. A great resource is submissiveguide.com.

  5. Thank you for sharing carina! This is one of the better contracts I’ve seen in terms of covering reasonable expectations for both the Dominate and submissive. I also like the idea of both having some goals for the coming months.

  6. I’ve always wanted this been with my husband for 11 years in 26 always been scared to tell him. You know the typical dirty language in my head and all that. Well we are now looking into this. Love this contract. Only thing is i need some does and donuts rules and stuff any help in that area?

  7. Hi carina, I am entering a sub role for the first time as a contract. My Dom has our contract sorted but I wish to do a verbal contract / declaration to him when I first gift myself to him. We have been together over 12 months ago when I decided I would like to try to be submissive and try some bondage….after a couple of visits I did not return. At that time of my personal life I wasn’t sure it was what I wanted or needed. Now I know it is what I want and need. I just need help coming up with a verbal declaration to say to him that will arouse him and let him know he has all of me. Can you help .

    1. One of the best ways to present to your Dom and declare yourself is to kneel nude, palms up and head down. When he responds you can say some heartfelt words that you know you need to say. Can be a quote, a simple statement of submission or a vow of sorts. Good luck and I hope that helps.

      1. Thanks…have had a few ideas in my head. Have come up with what you suggested except clothed as part of my gift is for him to unwrap me and for him to inspecthis gift after I have knelt and giving my submission…but thanks I did not know about the head and palms being down.

  8. Can this contract be used if for example, A couple wants to use this contract for a submissive female for the couple’s to perform with from time to time??? If not, please guide us to the contract we can use!!!

  9. I have just broken up with my girlfriend as we cannot live together anymore. But now we have talked about the life beyond the breakup. We have chosen this contract as one of the better parts of our lifestyle which is master sub which will continue on! Thanks so much. Just a reminder to all you out there. There is a special life in the form of master and sub which still lives on after a breakup you too can live the dream! enjoy all !!!!! ;)x

  10. Very helpful! I’ve always been the Dom and always voiced my expectations. Having it written, so clear and concise will truly help her to know her role as mine. Thank you very much

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  12. this agreement completely covers all one needs to have in a Master/slave agreement.it is a good guide for a Master/slave to follow. thanks

  13. As a new sub this is the contract that was presented to me and I absolutly want to that you it expresses clearly what I need to provide to my Dom and what he shall provide me. My Dom agrees. Thank you.

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