“I’m amused that he is training you in the “way” you want to be trained.” This is a message to me from my former Master about my current Dom.
My initial reaction was that yes he is, but that’s not why he is training me that way. But I did have to give it some time to settle and evaluate in my mind. I talked to a dear friend of mine about it who new former and myself together. And she asked me a very worthwhile question. Aren’t you supposed to find a Dom (or sub) that meshes with you? Isn’t that what I “shopped” for?
The answer was a resoundingly clear, Yes! I searched for two years to find someone that would understand me, push me, hold me accountable, get me better than I could know myself. Someone that had a fun side to his sensual sadistic side. Someone that understood what D/s was to me and just how much BDSM was wanted. Someone who wanted the same things in a relationship.
Today I mentioned the whole thing to D and I loved his response. “Could it possibly be that the way you want trained matches the way I want to be served?” (Yes! Yes! Yes! )
He went on to say ” he doesn’t understand that you and I match…that the things I want are in you and that your training further brings you to where I want you to be, and at the same time it is where YOU want to be.”
And this is exactly why I chose D from all those others that contacted me, met me and even went on a few dates. He gets me, he knows me better than I know myself, he understood me from the beginning.
So former may have wanted me to question things or create doubt, but all it did was confirm for me that I am with the right person now. I’m thankful for the question and happy my initial response was so right on – logical and focused. I’m even more grateful for D, who had the perfect response. Check Mate.