I’m not normally a bratty sub. I don’t tend to brat to get attention (not intentionally anyway). So its odd that I find that my brat is peeking out with my new Dom.
Why is that? A few thoughts have come to mind…. but before I get to my reasons, I thought I’d ask all of you…. what brings out your brat (or your sub’s brat)?
My own analysis of this, is a combination of a few things….
- I’m happy and more carefree than in previous relationships
- I’m feeling secure in his interest in me
- I’m comfortable being me….. playful, snarky, teasing, cheesy
- I’m testing the waters a bit in getting to know him better (want to see his dark side)
- I’m craving….. rules, use, to show me who is in charge
Now keep in mind we’ve only been together two months and we’ve taken some things slow. Mainly because I’ve never dated someone I didn’t know as a friend first, so this is new territory for me. We also live an hour away from each other. And we’ve had other life things going on requiring our time/attention. So while I have daily tasks and there is daily communication, there aren’t “rules” yet.
This week I did something I’ve never done before…. and it bothers me. I forgot a task. I could make excuses up, but that’s all they are. The worst was the task is a fun one. But I completely forgot about it until he asked how I was doing with it at the end of the day. Boy did I feel bad. He keeps telling me its okay, he will make sure I don’t forget again. He asked me what I thought a proper punishment should be. I don’t know…. never been punished for forgetting a task, let alone a fun one. However, I do feel relieved that he will punish me after he returns home from his trip and we see each other next. I screwed up and I know the only way to feel better is to accept the consequences of my disobedience.
So again, I ask what causes your brat (or Your sub’s brat) to come out. Is it intentional or not? Also, have you (or Your sub) forgotten a task? if so, what types of punishment was appropriately administered? (of course if you are up for sharing).